|When was the last time you felt angry? Anger is an emotion many of us recognise and contend with on a daily basis – someone jumping ahead of us in the queue, being ‘wronged’ by a colleague or family member, usually we will point at another person or event and blame them for the way we feel. But, when this anger becomes deep rooted, it can take over our lives and trigger thoughts and behaviours that are uncharacteristic and at times extremely unpleasant.
What we might not realise is that anger has a negative impact on our bodies too. Your adrenal glands flood your body with stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline, your heart rate increases, body temperature rises and your blood vessels tighten. Blood is diverted away from your digestive system and into the muscles – ready to fight or flee from the situation. We may begin to visualise our ‘revenge’ – playing out negative images in our mind which prolongs and compounds the feelings.
I have a friend who is very capable and experienced driver, in the past they have had to drive long distances for the work, but their ability to control their levels of anger when they’re behind the wheel is zero. A learner driver taking too long to pull out of a junction, the car in front forgetting to cancel their indicator when leaving a roundabout or even an elderly lady taking longer than a split second to pull away at a green light all trigger anger for him. The learner driver, the driver leaving the roundabout nor the elderly lady are all blissfully going about their days and my friend continue to allow himself to be consumed with anger long into the evening following his drive home. Wouldn’t his evenings be much more pleasant if he just wasn’t angry? There’s a Buddhist saying ‘Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intention of harming another; you’re the one getting burned’. Would life be easier if we could spend less time being angry and more time focussing on feeling good?
If you’re struggling with anger and need support get in touch today!
|Over recent weeks I have written about Anxiety quite a bit. Not because I am scare mongering but because this is a serious issue that impacts negatively on thousands of people every day. It’s also a major cause of sickness absence which can become lengthy. None of this is good for the individual experiencing anxiety and stress but it’s not good for businesses either. According to the Government’s own statistics the amount of time lost in 2016/2017 amounted to 12.5 million days and one third of all sick notes issued by GPs is for mental health issues. This is a modern epidemic and as an employer, knowing what to look out for may make a real difference to your employee and to your business.
So how does stress develop?
Work related stress develops – often slowly and over long periods – when a person is unable to cope with the demands of their role for a variety and mix of reasons. This does not necessarily mean that can’t do their job due to ineptitude but it does often mean they have become overwhelmed. Perhaps the workload has exceeded their capacity but not their capability. A saying that sums it up well is this, “Stress isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of having tried to stay strong for too long.”
What you should be looking out for in your employees – or even yourself!
Stress and anxiety create real and potentially serious physical symptoms such as:-
- Chest pains
- Nausea or vomiting
- Stomach pains
- Trouble sleeping
- Frequent colds or infections
- Nervousness and shaking
- Muscle pain
Also watch out for changes in behaviour or attitude. For example, do you notice a staff member becomes easier to agitate, moody or frustrated than usual. Do they snap back at comments they would have laughed off before, or seem withdrawn or aggressive with others?
As an employer, you have a duty of care, so asking someone if they are OK or need some extra help is OK. All too often, people struggle on hoping to ‘shake it off’ or that something will change, so your concern may be what they need to hear so something can be done before the situation becomes even worse for them – and for you.
Of course, it may be that your business is in a high-pressure industry or service and stress is an inherent part of your world. If that’s the case, you can take a proactive approach to avoid the inevitable difficulties associated with sickness absence for stress or anxiety. Here at The Wellbeing People we specialise in working with individuals but also within teams, departments and companies to address the issues associated with the condition. We can help with bespoke workshops designed around your industry. We can train techniques that enable your employees to stay in control of their own emotional wellbeing as well as making them aware of what to look out for when ‘normal’ levels of stress start to build up to being something serious. We firmly believe in prevention being better than a cure, and in today’s high pressure work place environments this is particularly true.
Our workshops can be held in-house or at a training centre local to you. By working closely with you we provide all the benefits that an effective stress and anxiety awareness workshop brings, without disrupting your business operations.
Like us, you will want your employees to be happy and healthy at work and when a healthy mind is protected by a person’s employer, productivity will be sustainable in the most demanding of workplaces
|We often use the word ‘soul’ – “it’s good for my soul,” or “I put heart and soul into that” and other expressions. Funny thing is that we can substitute another word for soul which sounds the same, means something completely different but still has an amazing power to improve our lives. In fact, we have two of them; the soles of our feet.
Our feet are more than handy lumps of flesh and bone to keep us upright or give us a reason to buy lovely shoes. Our feet are masterpieces of engineering, with nerves and veins plus an electrical system worthy of our personal sonar system. If you don’t believe me, try and recall feeling unsteady as you walked on an infirm surface which appeared normal – what actually happened was your feet did not receive back the ‘sonar echo’ your brain expected so you ‘felt’ wobbly. Amazing, eh?
Now, here’s something even more fantastic. Your feet have reflex areas, a bit like the receptors in your brain, and can impact negatively on your physical well-being. Like any other human condition if something in your body isn’t working properly you will want to find a therapy that helps alleviate symptoms you find unpleasant, uncomfortable or downright painful.
Reflexology is the right therapy for anyone suffering from back, neck and muscle problems, or sleeping difficulties, stress or tension and even digestion issues.
As I say on my website, Reflexology is a great way to give your body an MOT and enjoy some wonderful relaxation at the same time. This is not a cure-all for illness or diseases but as a therapy to improve your physical symptoms this is powerful and proven.
One of The Wellbeing People’s therapists is Mark. Mark has extensive experience in this field and combines Reiki with Reflexology to get the best possible results for you. This method focuses on relaxing the body from within and promotes toxin drainage and a sense of calm, making you feel rejuvenated and full of energy afterwards.
So why does reflexology work?
The principle behind it is that different places on the foot correspond with particular areas of the body. When a trained and skilful reflexology practitioner applies exactly the right pressure on those areas you can be rebalanced, destressed and re-energised which leads to an overall feeling of wellbeing.
What does reflexology feel like?
For a majority of people, it provides a deep sense of relaxation, warmth and a pleasant tingling in the body. Tension is relieved and symptoms reduced, leaving you in a happier state than before.
Does it tickle?
No, it doesn’t – not even for the most ticklish people. Mark uses direct massage and sweeping motions to apply pressure to the reflex areas of your feet. All you need to do is take off your shoes and socks, sit back and enjoy the focused, localised massage to your feet
|Anxiety – a word with just seven letters but with so much distress, harm and restrictions behind its meaning. It’s no wonder people who experience debilitating anxiety feel so restricted by their own thoughts and feelings. Thankfully, there are ways and means to deal with Anxiety through proven techniques and exercises. Solutions are available and my work with people dealing with Anxiety makes me appreciate how courageous they are on a daily basis.
May is Anxiety Awareness Month and as a practitioner who consistently meets and treats people with Anxiety issues, I am adding my voice over the next few weeks to focus on what sounds like a ‘simple’ issue but is, in fact, far from being so. I will give Anxiety a reality that is perhaps missed or misunderstood by those who do not experience it in the same way as those whose lives are made miserable by it.
Of course, a degree of anxiety a is natural thing. It’s what triggers how we subconsciously pause to double check that what we are thinking of doing or saying is ‘safe’ or at least within the boundaries of risk that we are comfortable with. For some of us, it is experienced at a hyper level that can cause real and dramatic physical responses to what may be perceived to be ordinary situations. For example, most of us will leave our homes for work each morning with barely a backward glance; perhaps checking first that the back door is locked and we have all we need with us. For others, just getting out of the house is a major event. In fact, just the thought of walking out of the front door can make some people so afraid, with feelings of dread and physical discomfort that they abandon the idea all together. And when this happens, over and over again, it is understandable that Agoraphobics may stay inside their homes for weeks, months and even years.
The number of causes of Anxiety are many and varied, as is the degree of extremes it can reach. One thing is certain, it can be dealt with, but when you are trapped by fears that self-perpetuate and crushing uncertainties that you know are illogical, taking those first steps amount to a battle in itself.
Although Anxiety is technically a mind-set and mental health issue, the physical impact is equally real. Feelings of anxiety can cause leg pain and even chest pain which gives the impression of a heart attack – the pain is real, and in no way ‘put on’. Palpitations, nausea, vomiting, fainting – the list of physical responses to a panic attack are very real indeed. So, you can see why Anxiety not only restricts a life but can make it utterly miserable and downright painful.
My message today for anyone out there trying to deal with Anxiety – diagnosed or undiagnosed – is this; people like me are able and very willing to help you. Yes, you have to reach out and let a practitioner like me know you need us but believe me when I say, we know what you are going through and we WILL help you.
Whether it is you who are trying to cope with, manage or recover from Anxiety or if you have a loved one who suffers with the many issues that Anxiety brings with it, call me or another professional in your area so the journey to reclaiming a calm, confident life can begin. One step at a time, Anxiety can be beaten and a new, happier horizon reached. My number is 07568 145151 and I am always happy to talk through what your options are and how you can be helped. As the saying goes, “Don’t suffer in silence when there are people close by who can help you.”
|We all know that setting goals – and achieving them - is important. Our personal and professional lives are often firmly framed around specific goals that are important to our roles and ambitions both inside and outside our working hours. However, many of us can find it difficult to set goals for ourselves or even deliver them as part of a team. But there IS a solution for an individual or a whole team of people who are struggling with setting or delivering goals. I can help individuals and teams to create a clear focus, align their plans with personal KPIs and make working to corporate objectives simple and straightforward. AND how to engage and deliver successfully!
Like most games where scoring a goal is the main purpose, the best route to success is having the right coach. That coach would be someone from The Wellbeing People.
Here at The Wellbeing People, we work within businesses and with individuals on a 1:1 basis, to quickly and easily improve how they think and feel about setting or delivering goals. It’s a bit like knowing the ball you need to kick will hit the back of the net each and every time. You can become SO confident and focused that you will genuinely feel you could score a goal with your eyes shut.
So, why do goals, key performance indicators and all that is linked to them make us feel as if we are being asked to build a brick wall with jelly?
It’s not because we’re not capable of setting or following goals, in our hearts we know this. Our minds, however, are playing a different game altogether. What’s more, the aversion to all things goal related may impact on a whole team of people who are responsible for working together to deliver a defined, desired outcome. A work-place project, for example, or changing processes or practices that need attention. The result?
Endless meetings to ‘discuss’ the minute details rather than taking an overview, frequently rescheduled deadlines so more ‘thinking time’ can take place, repeated reviews or working parties. The end result is even more stress for all concerned. Having a plan is how we make ourselves feel organised and in control. But setting and achieving goals, whether it’s for work or in our personal lives, is often easier said than done. In fact, just thinking about setting goals or working out an action plan to deliver goals we have been given can cause genuine stress. That can genuinely, realistically and achievably become a problem of the past – just contact us to find out more.
|Research shows 48% of us are affected by stress at some point in our lives and, for those of us who have experience of how this feels, it's a statistic we could all do without being part of.
At times, stress can be a positive feeling - something that gives us the energy and stamina to complete a task - but when the symptoms and thoughts relating to stress continue long after the task is completed, it's time to take notice and take positive steps towards reducing our stress levels.
It's not only how we think that can effect our stress levels though, the way we eat can have an impact on the way we feel and this workshop combines techniques for both. Jane Rose-Land, Nutritionist with a degree in Nutritional Medicine, shows you how to eat for energy and how to avoid foods that can actually trigger your stress-response.
Your stress levels and sleepless nights could be a thing of the past.
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|DEEP RELAXATION – BLISS!
Over many years I have specialised in Wellbeing in the Workplace. It is something I know is important from my career in large organisations, before I became a full-time practitioner in NLP and hypnotherapy. But why would any business feel having their employees relaxed and ‘chilled’ is important?
The Impact of Stress
Why Deep Relaxation?
What may surprise some readers of this article is that stress is experienced across every spectrum within an organisation. From CEO to every corner, department and section – stress exists, and I can provide professional support which makes it manageable over time without the need for costly absences from the work place. And, of course, my Wellbeing Workshops are designed to help people help themselves – often before any significant stress has manifested into ill health.
Now, I see regular clients and new people who want their lives to be easier and to feel ‘better’. Sometimes the first description a new client gives is just that – they want to feel ‘better’; about themselves, about particular issues or simply to make their stresses STOP!
That last word is sometimes mis-interpreted as being a bit ‘out there’, or hippy-esque or even regarded as being unproven. No doubt a lot of the antipathy toward hypnosis is down to those who turned a proven technique for deep relaxation into a low form of entertainment. I know from a professional standpoint that hypnotherapy is a non-invasive, gentle technique that WORKS. From dealing with long-term results of abuse to helping people give up smoking, creating a deeply relaxed physical state is beneficial.
In fact, let’s break the word down. Hypnos means sleep. Therapy, exactly that. Suddenly it makes complete sense, doesn’t it?
A way to heal through semi-sleep created by using deep relaxation. Bliss, in fact.
The mind becomes still, memories can be softened, and goals reinforced. Old, painful issues can be addressed and new, desired behaviours offered. It’s a gentle process which reaches into the sub-conscious mind where all the real feelings, responses and behaviours are stored.
Strangely enough, no one worries about being soft-talked into a pleasant feeling of calm and feeling amazingly refreshed after the session. And that is why hypnotherapy can be so beneficial to anyone whose Workplace Wellbeing is in jeopardy.
Nailing the Myth
If you would like to find out how I can help you decrease the level of sick days in your business, please contact me for an initial discussion through the website www.thewellbeingpeople.co.uk by email firstname.lastname@example.org or by calling me on 07568 145151
|Whilst doing some research the other day I read on a government website that 12.5million work days were lost during 2016/17 due to stress. I knew this work-place epidemic was a major problem and a significant factor in relation to productivity and profits, but I was genuinely shocked to read the numbers in black and white.
One quote, relating to stress says it all. “Feeling stressed isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s the result of trying to stay strong too long, alone.”
The Corporate Cost
Large organisations such as Councils, the NHS and other public service organisations are (or should be) initiating Wellbeing in the Workplace, simply because their work impacts directly on those who rely on them for services.
The problem with problems, to paraphrase Captain Jack Sparrow, is how people deal with them rather than the problem itself. To a degree, this is true but when sorting out an issue is outside the control of the individual experiencing it, therein lies Stress.
That is where stress begins, especially for an individual who feels they must carry on regardless of the physical and emotional outcomes of being constantly in a heightened emotional state or over-whelmed for any of the multitude of reasons that are brought to bear.
I am committed to working with organisations that recognise the need for a planned, professional approach to Wellbeing in the Workplace. If your organisation would benefit from discussing this further, please contact me on 07568 145151.