Necessity is very much the mother of invention. As such, in times of crisis we are forced to think outside the box and try new things. The Coronavirus outbreak has pushed many out of their comfort zone in countless ways. Those of us who have been slow to put ourselves out there online have realised that now is a good time to embrace new learning. Noticeably many are seeing the crisis as an opportunity to overcome our fear of technology, particularly when it comes to doing a live video online.
I overcame my own fears of live video just like that and now I am comfortable to work with clients online. This means I can help more people than ever, no matter where they may be. So yes, we have all had to adjust and come to terms with where we find ourselves since lockdown began on 23 March. Some of the subjects I touched on in my videos are in this blog which, I hope, will be of help to many of you.
As adults we have to support our own families and friends, try to work where possible but to do this we also need to keep our own thoughts and feelings in check. It is a fact that times of crisis can trigger an increase in stress and anxiety and feelings of not being in control. When we feel like this our thoughts can spiral downward all too easily. Being mindful and checking our thoughts can bring us back on a more positive wavelength. Focusing on things you can control and letting go of the things you cannot is important. Stop those “what if” thoughts, breathe slow and steady and think “calm and relaxed” whilst doing it. Failure to do so is not an option.
Why not take advantage of the slower world we find ourselves in. See the positives; and there reallyl are many.
It is an ideal opportunity to connect with our close family and friends as well as to catch up with those we never normally have the time to catch up with. For the majority of us this will mean connecting online using video calls as well as sending messages through WhatsApp, Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram etc. For some, it will mean living pretty much 24/7 in their homes for the duration and it could well be their first experiences of living via the virtual world. The challenges found when living so closely together are real but there really are many positives if you look for them.
The opportunity to fully be present is quite often missed in our typically frantic lives. Now parents and grandparents can fully engage with children, grandchildren. Siblings can connect and catch up. Couples can re-connect and relationships can gain greater depth. Friends we have not talked to for some time can be caught up with. By reaching out and lending support to one another all our relationships will blossom and grow in ways we could not imagine. Out of crisis comes some magical moments and some great self learning.
We will learn to adapt to our changed lives. Being patient will allow us to stop and listen fully to one another. We can take the time to enjoy our homes and gardens far more than usual. Taking the time to communicate with each other can often prove difficult in the fast paced world in which we live. Now is the time to take stock and be reflective. Time to make positive changes within ourselves and our future lives.
Having a house full of children clamouring for your time can feel like a pressure. Instead turn home schooling into something fun and engaging. Allocate special time to help your children learn. Show them that you need some time to yourself so you can carry out work tasks whilst they have some time doing solitary tasks or playing together without an adult. This will teach your children that you will make special quality time for them but everyone also needs their own space too for a time.
The challenges presented by this lockdown situation can give rise to emotions running high. Anger could well be a huge emotion for many of us right now. Anger at the government, anger at people's behaviour in supermarkets and going outdoors when asked not to. Be careful where your anger goes and try and let it go as it will not serve us in any positive way.
Work at letting the negative thoughts go by turning them on their head. Whatever you do, don't let those negatives stay with you. Accept that we may feel fearful. Process how you feel. Remind yourself that things are different and it is very normal to have such feelings. Then choose to let those negative feelings go by flipping things round so you can see the positives in the situation. Instead of feeling pressured that you have to home school your children think “how can we make this fun”.
Set your mindset each morning so that you start out feeling upbeat and positive.
If you follow these steps then when things happen during the day to bring you down you will overcome them more easily. Far more easily than if you begin the day thinking your day is going to be rubbish.
Lack of motivation and structure will not help you to make the best of your day. Staying in your pajamas and giving in to going with the flow with no set routine is all too easy to do. Instead have a set time to start your day, shower and breakfast or similar morning routine.
There are lots of good things happening out there on line now to keep us engaged, focused as well as physically and mentally healthy. Morning exercise sessions with Joe Wicks, online training courses for all sorts of new skills are just some examples of things you might want to include in your day.
By planning the night before for the next day ahead you will find it far easier to keep focused and experience a positive and successful day. You will be able to create some fantastic memories to look back on when this time is long past.
Our children need to be listened to and their worries taken on board. They could well be anxious and will have their own unique way of expressing their fears. Keeping control and in the moment ourselves will help our children to keep calm throughout the challenges of lockdown and the general craziness that is life as we know it today.
on what is happening with the world is something we need to do to
stay in touch. However, it is all too easy to overdose on the
never-ending supply of news items online and on the television. It
does not take long to feel overwhelmed by it all and the net result
is to feed our fears all the more.
To mitigate the negative effects of overexposure to Coronavirus news stick to specific times to dip in and catch the key headlines on the News channels at the end of each day. If you prefer to get news from social media sand other online sources try to visit Facebook and the like no more than a few times a day. Instead, tune in to alternative sources of entertainment which will stimulate your creativity and the fun side of your nature. Share these more positive aspects of your day with your family and friends. It will help them to keep positive too.
If you need to talk to someone about how you are feeling I am happy to offer a complementary 30 minute consultation without obligation simply because your mind matters. Just get in touch with Nicki at firstname.lastname@example.org or call 07568 145151 if you would like to arrange a no obligation complementary consultation.